Need advice about two married friends having an affair?

See me and this girl were really good friends we hungout all of the time we had an affiar (we got caught by her husband so both of our spouses know about it but they think it was only once and it wasn't) we are now in love with each other and dont know how to tell our parteners how we feel about each other what would be the easiest way to let them know how we feel.Need advice about two married friends having an affair?
There is no easy way to tell them something like this.


Either way you are going to get something thrown at your head - and rightfully so.Need advice about two married friends having an affair?
Alas, there is no easy way. There is no way to say these things without causing great pain. Do your spouse a favor, however, divorce them. They deserve the opportunity to find true love with someone who will be faithful and who will love them. By-the-way, just because the two of you 'love' each other now, doesn't mean it will be the same after you get divorced. That act changes oh so very many things, it changes who you are and it changes the entire dynamic of your relationship. But, endure the pain, it will be a favor to everyone. Get divorced.
Have her and you sit down with both partners and just come out with it and tell them.





That is the only way, but be prepared of the yelling, screaming, fists flying, accusations, feelings being hurt, people getting hurt, throwing of furniture, and flower vases, but then, again, you already know all of this was going to happen, so just go in their will full body Armour and tell them!
Send them a letter to explain that you both are lying, cheating scum and you intended to hurt them all along. They could then use the letter as hard evidence in the divorce case. Get a divorce already and then I am sure both of you will do the same thing to each other as you did to your spouses.
As painfull as it is for your spouses in the end it is better to know the truth. You have to live your life. It sucks that in doing that it makes you a bad guy but what choice do you have. It will be unfair no matter what happens. At least if you do it now it's that much sooner that your wife will move on and find someone that does love her in the way that she needs. You are in control of this sack of crap so just go ahead and fling it into the fan.
holy crap, you need to reply to me...





kids or no kids? how long have you been married? how long has this been going on? have you gone to marriage counseling? do you think you still love your wife, honestly? why did you stray?





i'm in a very similar spot searching the web for advice and i also don't know what to do either (although our spouses know each other they have no clue).





Ouch
...have a PARTY amongst the two couples, at a restaurant and announce both of you are in love and want to get married, could you guys help out...good luck.


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Firstly, are there any children involved? If there are then i think you should make them your main focus at this stage, especially since there are so many children suffering because of the high divorce rate,
tell them to their faces and let them move on. The only thing you can do is tell them. They need to know its not just a one night stand.
be honest or move on with your own spouses and be thankful they were understanding the first time around =)
sorry i dont have any advice
neither or them deserve you! sorry but that is totally unfair to them
divorce them.... and move on...