I need advice about daughthers anxiety!?

My 5 year old has an abcess in her mouth and the dentist said she has to get her tooth pulled on Tuesday and she gets very nervous just going to the dentist her nose starts to bleed and her blood presure is through the roof. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem or and ideas! ThanksI need advice about daughthers anxiety!?
The dentist needs to be aware of this. Perhaps he can suggest something to calm her. Ask him if it would be safe to give her a little benedryl or something that would make her a little sleepy. Or, perhaps he can give her laughing gas, or maybe even something to make her sleep during the procedure. Normally you would want to avoid doing this in a child her age, but it is not safe for her blood pressure to go up so high that her nose starts bleeding. Also, I suggest that you not tell her where you are going. No sense in making her blood pressure sky rocket way before you get there. If you feel that she needs to be warned, then tell her when you are half way there, but help her to understand that the dentist realizes how scared she is and will try to make it better for her. Also, let her take along her favorite stuffed animal and even a little blanket if she has one. Call the office and let them know how severe her fear is and that you are allowing her to bring these in with her. Anything that will help to comfort her and make her feel secure. Good luck with this.I need advice about daughthers anxiety!?
Yes my son went through the same thing!! try to make it a fun day, tell her as soon as we finish at the denist we can go to the park with the dog, or we can go get a puppy. Something that she'll want to get the dentist over with so she can get to the activity afterwards GOOD LUCK
I had this problem years ago with my little girl. The dentist would never allow me to go back with my daughter. It was a hard and fast rule in his office. This is an unhappy story, because it turned out the dentist was putting his hand over her mouth and holding it there so she could not breathe if she put up a fuss or complained of pain. This did not come out until some years later when he did that to one little girl and she died because she got so upset she vomited and aspirated the vomit (because he had his hand over her mouth). I am not saying this is the case with your daughter, but please question her to make sure the dentist is not treating her badly. In the case of my daughter, not only did he put his hand over her mouth, but he would pinch her gums with his pliers and threaten that she would never get to see her family again if she didn't stop crying. He was really a sadist. When the case came to trial about the little girl he killed, about 20 former patients showed up to testify about how he had done the same things to them when they were little. The judge would not allow the testimony in, and that little girl's death was ruled an accident!


Anyway, that's what happened. I felt horrible that I had not questioned my daughter's fear of the dentist more closely at the time.
I dont know what to do about this specific pulling-teeth thing, but i have a fear of dentists and my mom took me to a pediatric dentist and it helped because they got that i was scared and had alternatives to some stuff. Just something to consider. Try and figure out what she dislikes so much about the dentist.
Take her to a doctor and have her put on some medication for anixiety.
Cammomile tea twice or three times a day. This will ease the anxiety. Alos what works great for anxiety is getting her active. Out for walks with you and sports.





About the phsycological aspect of the dentist. Maybe you could expalin to her that the dentist will make sure that you won't feel a thing plus that you will be there with her standing by her side holding her hand. Plus she gets to miss school. You can tell her that you'll make her favorite meal when she gets home.





I'm 31 and have an abcess in my mouth and I am even procrastinating getting it done. Dentists now, the good ones, really make sure people are super comfortable when they do the work. I have so many male friends that are totally scared of the dentist...big huge men...and they always seem to find dentists that treat them like babies cause they are so scared. Dentisits have changed there ways especially with kids.





I hope that helps a little. I can imagine what she is feeling but it won't be that bad at all. My Mom used to just hold my hand and crack jokes with me while it was being done to help ease the stress.
Next time there is a dentist appointment I would tell her the day you have to take her and stay in the room with her when she gets anything done!
when my daughter was in first grade she had a tooth pulled %26amp; the dentist gave me a prescription for 1 pill to give her 30 minutes before her appointment. it was some type of muscle relaxer (or something like that) to relax her.
Are you going to a pediatric dentist? They specialize in working with children daily and may be your best bet. Has she any bad experiences at the dentist/doctors office before, or does she just tend to be nervous about these appointments in general? I am concerned because if she is 5, she is old enough to remember how scared she becomes around the dentist. This can affect her reaction to taking care of her teeth (i.e. getting them cleaned every 6 months) for the rest of her life.





Talk to your dentist about the procedure. He/she should be able to provide a medication to relax her, which sounds like it will be necessary to remove the tooth. Also, he could use nitrous oxide (a.k.a. laughing gas) to help calm your daughter. Some dentists will physically strap children down - as your daughter will remember this I highly suggest against it!





Be sure to stay in the room with your daughter reassuring her that everything will be okay. I'd even think about wrapping up a special gift for her so she will have something to open for doing such a great job. She'll need lots of emotional support. This can be a difficult time for kids, as they tend to be scared of the unknown. Talk to her about having teeth pulled and perhaps have an older child talk to her about the ';positives'; (such as the tooth fairy) of having a tooth pulled... this doesn't have to be detailed or directed about her upcoming appointment.





Hope this information helps!
Ask the dentist if they can give you something to give to her an hour or so before the visit that will calm her down.
Who wouldn't? It's terrifying!


Be there for her emotionally and have some sort of fun event planned for later so she can remember your presence and love that day, which will take away the emotional pain.
u need to do anxiety relief therapy before going to the dentist. ask u r dentist and there are many drugs who can relief anxiety, so give any one of it half an hour before visiting to the dentist, and also its doctor's responsibility as well to calm down the patient before going to the surgery process, no matters it is major or minor like tooth extraction. ask u r daughter what she likes as a gift if she agrees for the extraction.


but keep in mind the atmosphere of the dentist's clinic is friendly n calm.





good luck
If you live in the UK, you dentist could refer your daughter to a clinic that specialise in phobic children, they can also give her some diazipam to help her keep calm.


I work in a community clinic and we deal with children with similar problems every day and manage to get them over it, with time.


Hope all goes well


Qualified Dental Nurse